Both Worth the Wait and Stand Tall are sold out at present. There is a revised and updated version of Worth the Wait Book and DVD to come out in 2010, following Jason's marriage..it will probably be called"It was worth the wait!"

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Sex

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Hi, I thought your book was great. My boyfriend is pressuring me to have sex with him and I am very tempted! HELP what would you do?
Temptation is something we all face. Even if you were with someone who was committed to the same values, it's still not easy at times to stick to your convictions. What makes it more challenging is being with someone who does not seem to value what you value. You need to be firm and upfront about how you feel by telling him you don't want to have sex & then see if he sticks around. I believe the best relationships are those whom values are the same, because that person will encourage on your journey rather than put pressure on you to compromise.

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How do you know it is better to wait?
A great sex life that lasts only comes out of a great relationship. A great relationship involves trust and commitment. When these things are in place, the relationship can be great and so to the sex that follows. I believe the ultimate commitment is signing on the dotted line in the security of marriage. Statistically, those who have sex before marriage have a much higher chance of divorce.

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I am a 24 year old female and have been celibate for 8 months. Do you find it hard when on dates to tell them that you are celibate?
I have found that most males have run for the hills! Be honest & up front from the start. Yeah sure you may have a few that 'run for the hills' but do you really want that kind of guy. Be patient & wait for the one that knows that it's a precious gift that you are waiting for him & truly appreciates the commitment you have made. And well as for those runners... it's only their loss.

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I recently read your book and it inspired me to remain celibate. Upon telling my family and friends, there response was to laugh and then say it won't last. What do you think I should do?
Well it's your choice. You can give in & believe your family is right or you can give it a go. Trust me your family might laugh & not believe in you now but when they see the rewards and the awesome relationship you will have in the future they'll see that your ways were not so crazy. You can remain celibate – it's not such a crazy idea to the thousands of other people in Australia doing the same.

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Every time I try & talk to my sis about sex we argue...any tips on how to approach the subject without causing an argument?
If you do not agree on an issue the worst way to get your point across is to force it on her. Try to respect her & listen (even if you don't agree) then hopefully she will do the same for you. And if that fails well the best way is to simply lead by example. Speak with your actions not your words.

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What would you do if it turned out your future wife was a shocker in bed?
I believe that a good sex life that lasts only comes out of a great relationship based on love, respect and trust. When these things are in place in a relationship and both people have a good self esteem- the sex will be awesome. People think you need to try before you buy, but I believe the worst lovers are the "experienced ones" because they come into a relationship with past memories of lovers, hurts from previous relationship- in other words baggage. Sex isn't like buying a car, you don t need to test drive it!

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I found a condom in my 14 year old son's laundry. How do I approach him?
I want to teach abstinence. As hard as this might be to hear most teenagers don't like hearing the abstinence message or even talking about sex with their parents but in saying that it is really necessary to communicate about these things with your children. It might be good for him to see the Worth the Wait DVD so he can see that other young people are choosing the option of abstinence and the reasons behind it. That hopefully will be a great start for you to talk about it.

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Do you have any messages for some one who may have 'stuffed up'?
Check out my book Worth the Wait for more info but what matters is from this day forward. We all do things we may not be proud of but thankfully we can have the slate wiped, learn from it and make the choice to change our ways to get the best out of life.

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How far is too far?
Or where can I draw the line physically because it seems once I get started I cannot pull away?
How would you feel if you could look into a mirror and see your future partner? I don't think you would like to see some guy playing around with your future wife's body and emotions, and I'm sure your future wife wouldn't exactly be cheering you on if she saw you pushing the limits with another girl. Look, we all make mistakes. Even when in relationships where I have been committed to saving sex for marriage, I have pushed it, but I try and learn from my mistakes so I don't put myself in compromising positions again.

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What do think if Christian girls who flirt continuously, with both Christian and non- Christian guys?
Would this develop into potential marital problems, if she got married?
Flirting is not really something that I would like my wife or myself to be known for, as I said in my book, its like waving a big mac under someone's nose who could be really hungry and then taking it suddenly away…pretty ordinary

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I have recently decided that I have been sleeping around too much. I want to stop but don't know if I have the will power. How did you cope?
You can do it, I mean, not do it! You need to be aware of the reasons that lead you to the choices you are making. Surround yourself with encouraging, understanding people. Try not to put yourself in compromising situations that may lead you to the old ways but most of all believe that change is possible. For me, God really gave me strength to overcome some habits and a lifestyle that really wasn't helping me become the person I was created to be.

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How do you know when you are in love?
Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not solely based on how we feel. Our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True love is always based on a person character and there actions, not on how they say they feel about you. Check out chapter "But were in love" in Worth the wait.

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How are you going to know when you meet the right girl?
I believe that we will get to know each other as friends first and check out things like compatibility, chemistry and character. That will be a great start to knowing if they may be the right one.

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All my friends are getting married and I haven even had a boyfriend. HELP?
Yep, been there and felt that way. It helped me to know my singleness had a purpose where my character was strengthened and being prepared to be the partner your future spouse would want. Do not let the pressure of seeing all your friends get married make you settle for second best. Be patient and have hope in knowing that your time will come when it is right but till then do not stress, just enjoy the journey instead of focusing on the destination.

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How do you know if they mean it when they say: 'I love '?
Most guys say it and don't mean it. Try avoid talk like this during the initial stages of a relationship. Even though it may seem like your heart will burst if you don't say, "I love you", the more control you learn to have over your emotions, the easier it becomes. We all long to hear and say the words "I love you", but they are meaningless unless they are expressed out of a deepening of one's commitment to the other person involved in the relationship. When someone says, "I love you" it's a special moment, so do yourself a favour and don't cheapen these words by handing them out to everyone.

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Do you think 16 is too young to know who you want to spend the rest of your life with?
The best relationships are those in which people know and appreciate themselves. This takes time. I know for myself I have a totally different outlook on life at age 30 to when I was 16.I know myself better and I am at a different position emotionally to handle a full on relationship. Please take it slow, talk to the people who love you most...if it's real love it can wait and it will get better as you develop as a person

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Self Esteem

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I find it difficult to trust men. They don't see me for the person that I am they just see the boobs. How can I tell if a man likes me for who I am, not what I've got?
Yeah there are that kind that will see the package & have one thing in mind but trust me there are also some incredibly amazing men out there who will appreciate & value you for more that just your physical assets. Focus on building the friendship & they will see the beauty within. You will soon separate the trustworthy from the ones wanting one thing. The trustworthy are the ones that stick around and appreciate your friendship.

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What do you do when trying to lose weight but nothing seems to work and you are tempted to starve yourself?
Let me stress starving yourself is a very bad option – trust me, the long-term effects aren't worth it and you don't lose weight by doing that. Look at your reasoning for losing weight. If its too look like the incredibly thin girls in magazines you have to remember this accounts for less than 1% of the world & there is this lovely invention called the air brush. Do not compare yourself to others. If it's for health reasons I would recommend chatting to your GP regarding nutrition and exercise. But before taking this too far do me a favour get rid of all the bad thoughts you have about yourself and focus on the positive ones.

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I have a physical disability and little if any self-esteem. What would you suggest I do to gain more confidence?
Look inside, beyond the worldly exterior which says that you are physically disabled. Its there that the ‘real you' is & I am sure you are an amazing person. Try to change your thinking to focus on the positives you possess (which I know there would be many). Surround yourself with encouraging & supportive people.

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God

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I was wondering what are views are on having a boyfriend who isn't a Christian?
For me personally I want someone who I can share the most important part of my life with, and having someone not being able to relate to my faith and lifestyle would mean settling for maybe something good, but not the best. If you have peace about this person, I suggest building a friendship first and that will also help you in your decision.

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Jason, do you think being content is an achievable expression of oneself?
I have found that being content is both desirable and achievable and this ultimately stems from my relationship with God and being fulfilled with His friendship. There is so much that world says will bring you satisfaction. A bigger house, bigger muscles, a smaller waist, more cash, more popularity, but truly these things leave you unsatisfied without the security of knowing the one who knows you intimately.